Are You The Steve Jobs Of Your Marriage?6190847

Introduction This week the whole world was shocked to learn that one of its most respected - and admired - citizens has finally lost his fight against disease and passed away. That person was Steve Jobs. And his death is mourned all over the world.

Steve took a struggling company and turned it into one of the most respected companies in the world, not to mention one of the most successful.

Are You Steve Jobs In Your Marriage? Now, Steve Jobs didn't turn Apple into the successful company it is by just wishing it would happen all by itself. No, he did it by being a visionary leader - one who did what was necessary to take the company into the leading position of all markets sectors that he decided to compete in.

Thinking about this made me realise that all husbands have the opportunity to be the Steve Jobs of their own marriage. Following are a few things that you should seriously consider if you want to improve your marriage.

Marry Responsibility And Fun Steve Jobs managed to marry art and science, and in doing so he created products that people don't buy because they need them but because they want them.

The lesson for husbands: As the head of the household, you are responsible for a lot of things in your marriage - like earning an income, making sure the family has a home, etc. But while you should take on these responsibilities without complaining, you should also make time to ensure that your marriage is fun... for both your wife and yourself. If there is no fun, it will feel like prison.

What Future Are You Creating? When Steve took the reigns at Apple several years ago he had a vision - a plan to take the company where nobody else had tried or succeeded before.

The lesson for husbands: Think about the future you are creating for you and your wife. Is it a future that you both cannot wait to get to? Or is it a future full of frustration and boredom? Note that I'm not talking about a financial future here, folks (although that is also important). What I am talking about is a future filled with love, respect, warmth towards each other, kindness, etc. These are the things that you should be working towards - making your marriage heaven on earth.

Don't Let Failure Stop You Steve Jobs took on new challenges without fear of failure.

The lesson for husbands: If you are constantly "looking over your shoulder" you'll never make it in your marriage. Yes, you might make mistakes. But who doesn't? The only people who never make mistakes are those who are not alive. Rather, when you make a mistake, or if you fail your wife in some way, ask her forgiveness, learn from the mistake and move on.

Listen To Your Inner Voice We all have an inner voice - that little voice at the back of our heads - that tells us whether we are on the right track or not. The world's most successful people, including Steve Jobs, know how to listen to that voice.

The lesson for husbands: If your little voice tells you that something is not right (like watching porn), you have to listen to that voice and heed it's warning. On the other hand, if that little voice gives you a tip on how to surprise your wife with something that will make her very happy, then go for it. Remember that, if it brings happiness into your marriage, that happiness will flow out and have a wider impact on people around you.

Expect A Lot From Yourself Just like Steve Jobs was never satisfied with mediocrity, you should always expect the highest, loftiest things from yourself regarding your marriage.

The lesson for husbands: This means you should never skimp on the levels of love and respect you show your wife. You should never simply be "the other person" in your marriage, but always strive to be the best - the best lover, the best husband, the best flirt, the best friend, the best soul mate, the best partner, the best comforter - that your wife could ever hope to get. And if you sometimes fail in any area, learn from it and vow to become better.

Surround Yourself With Talented People No company can succeed with a bunch of losers on the team, and Steve Jobs knew this very well. That's why he always got te best to work for him.

The lesson for husbands: Marriages, like companies, cannot succeed with losers onboard. That's why you can never afford to stop becoming better. Because the moment you stop improving, you stagnate... and your marriage stagnates. You don't have to go on expensive training programmes to get better. All you have to do is to watch what successful people do and learn from them. Reading articles like this is a good starting point. Find as many such opportunities as you can, implement the suggestions made by the authors and soon you'll see radical changes in your marital relationship.

Anything Is Possible Through Dedication And Hard Work This is probably one of the best legacies that Steve Jobs has left the world with - the fact that anything is possible if you believe in it and work towards it.

The lesson for husbands: What is more worthy of your time and effort than your wife and your marriage? Believe in your marriage, believe that it can be the most fantastic thing that will ever happen to you. Then go out and invest the time and effort to learn how to become a better husband.

Summary As the husband you have the responsibility to be the leader of your household. Take that responsibility seriously and make sure that you are always getting better at being a husband. I promise you that it is an investment worth making.

Never Stop Becoming A Better Husband